Marriages go through ups and downs over the years. Sometimes, you may feel like your relationship is stronger than ever, and other times, you may wonder why you are even married at all. These emotions are completely normal when you choose to share your entire life with another person. However, a rough patch may be here to stay when there are larger, divisive issues at play. Our experts in in-home marriage therapy in Orlando help many marriages overcome tough times, but some cannot be saved. These are a few signs that indicate your marriage may be headed towards divorce.
Are you always being belittled by your spouse? Do you struggle to have a voice because you are scared of what your spouse will say? Constant criticism can carve away at your self-confidence and leave you full of insecurities, which creates an unhealthy marriage. When you are accustomed to this type of treatment, you may never even think that you deserve more.
Intimacy is an important aspect of any marriage, as it keeps you and your spouse connected and in tune with one another. When your marriage lacks intimacy, you may struggle to connect, and this can cause a divide over time. Although marriages have periods with ruts, a lack of intimacy over a long period of time can indicate a larger problem in the relationship.
Abuse should be a marriage deal-breaker. Many people may stay in an abusive marriage because they assume they can change their spouse, or they think that the ‘last time’ was the last time. However, abuse is never right. When you are mistreated, physically harmed, or emotionally abused by your spouse, you need to consider ways to safely remove yourself from the situation. Getting out of the marriage may be frightening or challenging, but it can save your life.
When one spouse steps out on the marriage, it can break trust and cause marriages to end. Infidelity is likely caused by a larger problem, such as a lack of intimacy or connection with your spouse, but these are never reasons to have an affair. In many cases, infidelity is a deal-breaker, as the trust may never be fully regained.
Money issues are another large problem that can dissolve many marriages. When you constantly worry or fight over money, you may start to resent one another. Also, some spouses cannot deal with their spouse making a higher salary than them, and this can also cause large rifts. If you constantly fight about money, you may want to talk about these issues with a therapist or accountant that can present you with the best ways to move forward without destroying your marriage.
These are a few tell-tale signs that show your marriage may be headed down the path for divorce. If you and your spouse wish to both put the work in to fix your marriage, you just may be able to work out your issues and overcome these struggles.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.