Toxic relationship counseling Orlando provides an objective place to discuss what isn’t working in your relationship. Have you been discussing your negative relationship with friends and family so much that they have stopped answering your calls or aren’t taking you seriously anymore? Have you noticed that your friends or family continue to avoid your partner and have started to avoid you too? Do you feel like you spend more time trying to justify parts of your relationship that most people in your life have told you aren’t healthy for you?
Toxic relationships are pervasive. This means that they don’t just impact you, they impact those around you too. Friends and family may have reached their breaking point, leaving you alone. How do toxic relationships exist despite the seemingly obvious negativity they breed?
As you enter the new relationship, you quickly realize that there are red flags. What you find is that the more drama you have in the relationship, the more you want to fight for it. It becomes impossible to disconnect and you make yourself available to your relationship at all costs. You begin to isolate yourself from people who you may have told your early relationship issues to. You think that if you don’t say anything anymore than they won’t know what’s going on. You continue to try all that you can to be the perfect partner, girlfriend, lover, boyfriend, husband or wife, but still fall short. You notice that your relationship is one that people don’t ask you about anymore, want to be around, or support out loud.
Over time you continue to become more entrenched in your toxic relationship. You may begin to notice that people who you once turned to are not returning your calls, not available to meet for drinks, or have disappeared completely. You wonder what has been happening or if it was something you did or said? Another stage of a toxic relationship becomes alienation. The negativity and drama that surrounds your relationship, and your life with this new person, has started to push people who love you away. Maybe they have tried to point things out about your relationship that has seemed abusive, unhealthy, or detrimental to your mental health. They may have made valid points but you ignore the advice. You see potential, hope, and a future within the toxic relationship. You are sure things will change. As people in your life begin to distance themselves from you, you begin to cling closer to the relationship.
Due to the avoidance that you have felt from others and demonstrate yourself, you realize that without the toxic relationship you would have nothing. You imagine that since people have disappeared you will be alone if you break up. You stay trapped in the cycle of the toxicity and you believe that without it, you would be lost. You have spent so much time investing, lost so much along the way, and given up other opportunities. You have developed a dependency on the relationship and the things that keep you in the toxic cycle.
Couples therapy doesn’t have to be for people who are trying to save a relationship. Couples therapy is individual therapy with an emphasis on how to be better at relationships. This could include the one you are in or future relationships.
Don’t continue to fall victim to the cycle of a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships emulate drug dependency. People with addictive type personalities often find themselves struggling within the constant highs and lows of a toxic relationships. My advice is that you seek a counselor that specializes in co-dependency, boundaries, addictions, couples therapy and individual counseling sessions. Give me a call today to schedule an appointment for yourself to discuss concerns you are having in your relationship. I can offer you better insight, an objective perspective, and will support you in decisions you want to make about your future.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.