Infidelity can be one of the most difficult things to overcome in your marriage. It can cause a range of emotions by breaking trust between you and your spouse. When infidelity occurs, you are faced with the tough decision of whether to stay and fight for your relationship, or to leave. If you choose to save your relationship after infidelity, you can expect a tumultuous journey towards healing – and hopefully you will come out stronger than before. These are a few ways that you can work to get over infidelity in your marriage.
To even think about beginning the recovery phase, you need to make sure that the affair is over. This means that you or your spouse needs to cease all communication, meetings, or appearances with the person that they are in the affair with. By removing this individual from your life, you can ensure that the focus is now on the only two people that matter: you and your spouse.
To fully recover from infidelity in your marriage, you likely have a lot of questions – and you likely want answers. You should be prepared to ask questions that help give you clarity on the cheating, the reasons behind it, and any other details you may want to know. Although these conversations may be difficult, they can inform you on the truth of the matter. By truly understanding what went wrong, you can understand the full extent of the affair so that you can move forward together.
Some people do not like to take blame or responsibility for their mistakes. However, in order to heal from the infidelity, those who cheated need to take full responsibility. Do not say things like ‘you need to do this better’ or ‘she was different than you,’ because these statements can make the situation worse. Instead, assume the responsibility for the cheating, and start to apologize so you can both make progress together.
Do not expect everything to get solved overnight. Healing from infidelity is a difficult and sometimes long process that requires patience and dedication. If you truly want to restructure your relationship and rebuild your trust in one another, you will need to take time for healing conversations. Take the time to develop a new closeness that brings you together, hopefully better than ever.
Even if you are ready to make all the effort to repair your marriage, you may still want to hire the help of an expert. Our expert in marriage counseling, Dr. Phillips, creates a safe and comfortable space to confront these difficult issues and leave room for healing. A professional can facilitate positive conversations that are both productive and helpful in healing.
By taking these steps, you may be able to resolve the issues caused by infidelity in your marriage. You can work to save your marriage with the help of our professional in marriage counseling, Dr. Phillips. If you are looking for the right guidance through this difficult process, contact Orlando Thrive Therapy to schedule your session with us today!
Heather Oller is the owner and founder of Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching, and Counseling. She is a licensed counselor and a family mediator who has over 23 years of dedicated work as a professional in the mental health field. Through her company's mission, she continues to pave the way for future therapists, and their clients, who want a higher quality of life....and who want to thrive, rather than just survive. You can contact Orlando Thrive Therapy at (407) 592-8997 for more information.