Almost everyone feels occasionally pressured to do things for someone else that they would prefer not to do. Some people find themselves doing so many things for other people that they never take time for themselves. When they have finally had enough, then they feel guilty for telling someone no. It is vital to take time for yourself, or you will get worn out and be worthless to everyone. Here are some tips for taking time for yourself without feeling guilty.
You need to explore your guilt feelings to understand why you feel that way. A great way to do that is to journal. Let all your emotions flow out on paper without judging your thought patterns. Then, go back and see if you can identify patterns about why you feel guilty taking time for yourself. If you cannot identify the trends so that you can stop doing them, then consider individual counseling in Orlando.
Many people who are always busy taking care of others, find it difficult to tell others what they need. Tell people when you need some alone time as they may not need as much as you or they may be thinking you are getting it when you are not with them. At the same time, find out what recharges their energy battery and help them have time to enjoy those activities.
While it can be tough to do, remove the clutter from your environment. Living a minimalistic lifestyle brings inner peace to many people. Even if you choose not to throw much away or give it away, make sure that every item in your life has a dedicated space and keep it there. Staying organized helps you have more time to take care of yourself as you do not waste time looking for missing items.
There are two types of sanctuaries that you need to create. The first is a physical location that you can occasionally run away to where you experience peace. For example, it may be a bench in a nearby park. The second type of sanctuary you need to create is a favorite activity. It can be writing, knitting, exercising, or anything else. Then, when you feel your battery running low because you are giving too much to others, permit yourself to spend some time in your sanctuaries. Even a few minutes helps.
Many people find it very uncomfortable when they start telling people no. You should practice while looking in a mirror until it starts to feel more comfortable. Then, start saying no to people that will easily understand. There is no need for you to give a complicated reason when you say no.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.