How to Build and Preserve Better Boundaries

How to Build and Preserve Better Boundaries

How to Build and Preserve Better Boundaries

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you said yes to something you didn't want to do, or you let someone cross a line that shouldn't have been crossed? It's easy to let people and situations get under our skin, but when we neglect to set boundaries, we risk losing control over our lives. Setting boundaries is an essential part of maintaining healthy relationships, both personal and professional. This article will help you identify the importance of boundaries, how to recognize when they've been violated, and ways to establish and maintain stronger boundaries.

Why are boundaries important?

Ground rules give us a sense of security and create the framework for healthy relationships. When we honor our own boundaries, we establish mutual respect and trust with others. Boundaries also enable us to have a healthy sense of self-worth, assure that we're in control of our lives, and help us avoid burnout from overcommitting.

How do you recognize when your boundaries have been violated? People often cross boundaries in subtle ways, so it's essential to pay attention to your feelings. It's common to feel frustrated, resentful, or uncomfortable when someone moves beyond your boundaries. Physical responses such as tension, headaches, stomach issues, and exhaustion can indicate that your boundaries have been compromised.

How can you start setting and preserving healthy boundaries? 

Identify what's essential to you

Identify what you want and need from relationships, work, and life in general. Consider which values and priorities you want to uphold. Doing this will make it easier to communicate your boundaries to others.

Express your boundaries

Letting people know your limits or preferences can seem difficult, but it's essential. Communicate your needs and desires respectfully, firmly, and without emotional escalation. Practice saying no and setting boundaries in low-stress situations first.

Reinforce your boundaries

Once you’ve set boundaries, it is essential to reinforce them. If someone violates your boundaries, you must speak up and let them know that they are crossing the line. You also need to be consistent in your enforcement while communicating your needs and values empathetically.

Take care of yourself

Self-care is vital in reinforcing boundaries. Learn to say no and delegate responsibilities when you're stretched thin. Carve out time for yourself, prioritize your mental and physical well-being, and make it a part of your daily routine.


Settling boundaries is critical when it comes to taking control of our lives, avoiding burnout, and upholding healthy relationships. Boundaries need to be respected in both personal and professional aspects of our lives. Taking the steps to identify when your boundaries are being violated, communicating your limits, and enforcing them consistently will help to affirm your ability to set stronger boundaries. It takes practice to create and maintain healthy boundaries, but the small steps and healthy habits you develop can go a long way in improving the quality of your life. If you are in Orlando, Florida seeking for professional counseling, don't hesitate to contact Orlando Thrive Therapy and begin your journey to better examples of healthier boundaries.

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Heather Oller is the owner and founder of Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching, and Counseling. She is a licensed counselor and a family mediator who has over 23 years of dedicated work as a professional in the mental health field. Through her company's mission, she continues to pave the way for future therapists, and their clients, who want a higher quality of life....and who want to thrive, rather than just survive. You can contact Orlando Thrive Therapy at (407) 592-8997 for more information.