Negative thinking takes a toll on your mood, outlook on life, and marriage. Unfortunately, some individuals are just more inclined to negative thoughts. However, it doesn't mean you are predestined to think negatively your entire life. According to our marriage counselor in Orlando, you can take steps to address your negative thoughts and enhance your quality of life.
Pessimistic thoughts aren't practical. For instance, if you are behind on the bills, it's realistic to say, "I have severe money issues." But a pessimistic thought would be more like, "I will never be able to catch up on my bills. I'm a total failure."
Negative thoughts are too pessimistic to be true. They are frequently exaggerated in character or anticipate that something terrible will happen in your future. With marriage, negative thoughts may include, "My husband does nothing to help me because he doesn't love me," or "My wife doesn't care when I am upset. I'd be better off unmarried than living with somebody that doesn't care."
These types of thoughts are often warped and illogical. However, individuals have two options when they have these kinds of ideas. First, you can decide to accept them. Or, you can fix them by substituting them with more accurate thoughts.
Negative thinking can make your perspective on your marriage seem rather bleak. When you envision doom and gloom or believe your spouse doesn't love you, it can destroy your hope for the future. People usually don't have pessimistic thoughts all the time. Nevertheless, many individuals often encounter them after an argument or when their partner hurts their feelings. The longer individuals dwell on their pessimistic thoughts, the more they can influence their hope for a successful marriage.
Negative thoughts make you feel inadequate. For example, if you believe your partner doesn't care about you, you will likely be mad, hurt, or even worried. And it's challenging to be a good partner when you're feeling down about your spouse, your union, or yourself. Unfortunately, sometimes individuals get stuck in these feelings. They may attempt to conclude their partner doesn't care and then look for other proof it is true. For instance, a guy who feels like his missis doesn't care about him may believe she is just making excuses when she claims she has a headache and doesn't care to join him in watching TV. And then, if she falls asleep early, he may assume it's because she didn't want to speak to him. But really, she didn't feel good.
If you've decided that your partner doesn't care or that your union is doomed, you will not likely behave like a thoughtful, loving spouse. Instead, it's more probable that you'll put less action into improving your marriage or spend less time concentrating on attempting to make your partner happy. This creates a downward spiral. When your conduct changes, it can force the marriage to disintegrate. It will take a toll if you begin putting in less action, treating your partner with less consideration, and placing your marriage lower on your priority list.
These are just some of the dangers of negative thoughts. Contact us today if you need a marriage counselor in Orlando. We are here for you.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.