Have you recently been unfaithful? Did you hurt your partner in a way that you are not sure is repairable? When you have had difficult debates, hurtful arguments, or a breach of trust in your relationship, you may wonder if you can find your way back to one another. In couples counseling in Orlando, you can discover the intricacies of your relationship and find out whether your relationship can be repaired. We will work with you to heal if you are both ready to do the work. These are a few tips to help you repair your relationship.
When you have an underlying problem in your relationship, you need to bring it to the surface. Avoid skating around the problem by confronting it head on. Discuss your and your partner’s emotions regarding the issue, and understand that the problem needs to be discussed, addressed, and solved while you are in therapy. For example, you may have called your spouse a negative name, and this could have led them to feel a certain way. Bring this issue to your therapist for discussion.
After the problem is acknowledged, you should then take time to discover why the action even happened in the first place. What was the reason for the problem? Why did you do what you did? Discussing the intention surrounding the issue will help to uncover the honest motivations you have to hurt your spouse. This can then start the real work of therapy.
As you start to heal from the damages, fights, or actions in your relationship, you first need to apologize. Saying you are sorry and actually being sorry are two different things. Take the time to sit in your emotions and make an honest apology for what you have done. If you have hurt their feelings, you need to spend time atoning for the actions that caused the pain.
Therapy is about recognizing that your partner’s feelings are valid and respected. It may be difficult to relive some of the experiences that have brought you here, but it is helpful to uncover the emotions behind the fights and actions. By recognizing the hurt that was caused, you can then start to heal and grow together to avoid these issues in the past.
You will then work with your therapist to find a resolution to prevent these problems from coming up again. Although there are no promises to be made, it is possible for you to come out of therapy feeling stronger and better than ever. When you open up, listen to your spouse, and learn how to communicate your feelings and your needs to one another in the future.
These are a few tips to help you repair your relationship when you have encountered an argument or discovered an unfaithful situation. When you are both dedicated to working on your relationship, you can do the work together in couples counseling in Orlando. If you are considering therapy for your relationship, contact Orlando Thrive Therapy to hear more about our services today.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.