Marriage is not always a walk in the park. It requires commitment, work, and responsibility. However, if your marriage is experiencing complex challenges, there is hope for strengthening your relationship and emotional connection. Our experts on in-home marriage therapy in Orlando offer the following ways you can improve your marriage today.
In the healthiest marriages, couples make many more positive statements about their relationship than negative ones when discussing issues or conflicts. Encouraging one another and focusing on the positive attributes of your union will help you overcome difficulties and challenges more easily. Try spending twenty minutes or so daily sharing the things you love about your relationship with one another. Reminding yourselves about the positive aspects of your union will help the negative issues seem much less overwhelming.
People often live up (or down) to loved one's expectations. In the best marriages, spouses have high expectations for one another. It is essential to teach your partner how to treat you, so refusing to accept hurtful behavior from your partner is vital. Having high expectations of one another means you will not tolerate bad behavior from your partner. If you establish these expectations early on, your relationship will be more successful in the long run.
Studies show that healthy heterosexual marriages are relationships where husbands accept influence from their wives. This is critical because women are already pre-conditioned and well-practiced at assuming a man's persuasion. For a marriage to be well-balanced and loving, a man must be willing to allow his wife to influence him too. For example, a wife may say to her husband, “Do you have to work Wednesday night? There is a parent-teacher conference at school, and I am in the middle of a project at work that makes it difficult for me to get away." The man who says, “Sorry! It is poker night with the boys. You will have to find a way to make it work,” is likely in a troubled marriage. On the other hand, a man who says, "Wednesday night is poker night, but I will let the guys know I might be late, so you don't have to worry about your work project" is fostering an equal partnership in his marriage. When both partners are committed to doing what is best for the family and the marriage, they will find a way to make things work.
The average couple waits far too long to seek professional help for relationship troubles. Seeking help with marital problems before they arise or soon after will give your marriage the best chance for success. However, waiting too long can mean that problems become so big that the work required to repair them can be time-consuming and overwhelming. Learning good communications skills and tools for handling marital conflict early in the relationship will help keep problems manageable and prepare you for a better future together. Preventative maintenance is just as crucial for your marriage as it is for your car or your home.
These are just a few of the ways you can make your marriage better today. Contact us right away for in-home marriage therapy in Orlando. We want to make improving your union as convenient and comfortable as possible.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.