The best way to make it through a divorce is to avoid it altogether. Of course, divorce is inevitable at times, but if you still love your spouse and are committed to your relationship, divorce is the last card you will want to play. Saving your marriage is a far better option, especially if you have ideas for doing so. When things begin going bad, they can continue to get worse unless you and your spouse make conscious decisions to turn things around. Our experts in home marriage therapy in Orlando offer these proven ways to save your family and marriage and avoid a divorce.
Your marriage is a partnership that both spouses entered into, meaning you both agreed to take responsibility for your actions as part of your union. Unfortunately, when relationships get challenging, one spouse or another finds it easier to blame instead of taking a look in the mirror and realizing they have some responsibility for the problem. If you are in a marriage, you have responsibility for most of what goes on, bad or good, from the day you say your vows until your union ends. Therefore, it is crucial to be honest with yourself and accept your part in making your relationship worse.
If you and your spouse spend too much time with people who have gone through a divorce or couples in bad relationships, then you are likely to be overloaded with negative and biased messages about married life. On the other hand, your happily married friends and family can help lift up your marriage and provide support, helping you model how great your union can be. In addition, you will get a first-hand look at how positive marriages function. Finally, when you spend time with people in good relationships, you are more likely to leave the interaction feeling better about the state of your marriage in general than if you spend time with troubled couples and constantly see divisiveness.
Going to counseling is easy for some marriages and not as easy for others. Presenting your problems openly in front of a third party can be intimidating to some, especially when they're feeling at fault or guilty for a large portion of the marital problems. However, there is a reason why so many married couples seek out marriage counseling, and it is because, more often than not, it makes your marriage better. Counseling is a therapeutic process that can help reduce emotional problems that you may not have been aware of in your relationship. Likely, some things you do annoy your spouse, and you don't even know about it. You probably feel the same way about some things your spouse does. Counseling can help to reveal any nasty edges in your marriage. More importantly, therapists can unearth these problems in non-threatening ways and provide you with strategies to fix anything broken.
The most important consideration about marital counseling is that both spouses must be committed to the process and put in the necessary work. If you enter the process with an attitude that you're only going because your spouse makes you, then there's no need even to go. On the other hand, therapy is often an incredible experience helping spouses put meanings and labels to their destructive behaviors. Once these behaviors are identified, it is far easier to resolve them and change them to build a better relationship. An excellent option for many couples is in home marriage therapy in Orlando. This option is often affordable, and there are many licensed therapists providers to choose from. Therapy cannot save every marriage, but it is quite an effective tool that you should strongly consider if you have the slightest hope of making your marriage better.
These are just a handful of ways to avoid divorce. Contact us today for information on how we can help you improve your marital bond.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.