Divorce is a fairly common phenomenon in the U.S. While the most often cited statistic is that 50 percent of marriages will end in divorce, current estimates are that the number is actually in the range of 42 to 45 percent of marriages ending in divorce. While less than previously believed, this is still a vast number of divorces, and it's a figure that is growing even higher among those aged 55 to 64, where divorce rates have nearly quadrupled over the past thirty years.
One would think it's relatively easy to spot when a marriage is in crisis. Still, marriage problems often tend to grow slowly over time, causing couples not to realize the issues need to be resolved until it is often too late to salvage the relationship. Therefore, it is imperative to be aware of the potential problems marriages may face. Early intervention and obtaining professional assistance can often help couples avoid issues that are likely to end in divorce.
While there will always be a measure of conflict and disagreements in even the best of relationships, it is often when the arguments and mutual anger become an almost constant occurrence that real problems are underlying a couple’s marriage. One obvious sign that serious problems are brewing is when one partner feels that they are giving far more than they receive over an extended period. These feelings may be due to their partner's commitment to their job, their partner’s relationships with other people, disagreements regarding child-rearing, or many other issues that cause a partner to feel they are unfairly carrying the bulk of the load in the marriage.
Marriage problems aren't easily defined. They can arise in a new marriage or an old one, vary in depth, result from a volatile event like infidelity, or come to a head after consistent miscommunications. Marriage is a union of two lives, and naturally, conflict happens. You and your partner may need a new set of skills to address your differences and respond in healthy ways. When a couple is experiencing severe disagreements that are prone to getting out of hand, mixed with one or both partners' unwillingness or inability to resolve those disagreements, there is a very high likelihood that permanent damage is being done to the integrity of the marital bond. These problems are typically a sign that outside help, in the form of a professional counselor, is needed. Orlando Thrive Therapy is an excellent resource for couples interested in fixing problems within their marriage by offering marriage counseling in Winter Garden with reliable and discreet services for couples in crisis.
While seeking assistance for marital conflict does not guarantee that a marriage can be saved, it does increase the odds of finding solutions to save the relationship. In some cases, though, the answer might still mean that the couple is better off separating. A counseling professional can facilitate communication between the couple, help them see the reality of their situation, and offer techniques to resolve their problems. Visit orlandothrivetherapy.com to initiate the process of obtaining marriage counseling in Winter Garden and surrounding areas.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.