People never get married with the expectation of getting divorced. If you thought your marriage wasn't going to be successful, there's no way you would walk down the aisle or spend the money for a fancy wedding in the first place. While every married couple faces problems, the types of issues that lead to a divorce can be prominent or hide quietly in the background, waiting for the perfect time to pounce. Therefore, married couples need to know when the right time is to seek help from a professional or dissolve their union. Marriage counseling in Windermere may be the solution to your marital troubles.
Experts offered these signs that your marriage may be in trouble:
When most people think of intimacy, they think of sex. But intimacy can also be more simple things like hugging, snuggling, or physical contact when you're speaking to each other. Intimacy and sex are meaningful aspects of any successful marriage, but not necessarily the most important. So when it feels like you and your spouse are more like roommates than a married couple who shares the intricacies and intimacies of a marital union, it is clear that now's the time to seek professional help.
Contempt and resentment can stop the patience and love that your marriage used to be built upon. If you and your spouse are happier being apart than spending time together, and either of you goes out of your way to avoid the other, your connection is dwindling. If your romantic connection is fading and you are making a choice to be away from your spouse for more than just a moment or to spend time doing a new hobby, then it might be time to seek some professional help.
It is common for a spouse to withhold certain information to protect their partner's feelings or avoid an argument or fight. Even when your intentions are noble, if your partner discovers that information later, it can cause distrust, turmoil, and a feeling of betrayal. In this case, your partner may have never had to experience these emotions had you just been honest in the first place. If this type of lying is becoming a habit in your relationship, it is time to seek professional help.
Sweeping things under the rug or avoiding conflict risks causing bitterness, emotional disagreements, and resentment in your marriage. Couples who don't feel comfortable dealing with differences and talking about complex subjects with their partner may not have a strong connection. Being able to disagree safely and healthily means that you can overcome hardship and address issues together as a couple. This skill can strengthen the marital bond, but not fighting fairly or constantly fighting with your partner is a sign that it's time to seek professional help. Of course, it's normal to argue in a relationship. Still, if you and your partner are constantly arguing, your arguments are painful or personal, and they are not helping you move forward or be more productive, then your marriage is not in a healthy state.
Open communication is a sign of a healthy relationship, so if you're only making small talk or not talking at all, there may be a reason for worry. Losing the willingness and ability to resolve problems within your marriage signifies that the marital bond is failing. When challenges are ignored or overlooked, and there are few meaningful conversations between spouses, trouble is ahead. Refusing to communicate clearly with your partner does not resolve problems or fix disagreements. If you and your spouse are not talking to each other, you may want to seek the help of a counselor.
Contact us today for more information on marriage counseling in Windermere. We are here to help you and your spouse communicate more clearly and effectively so you can work through your problems together.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.