When you start working with an Orlando counselor, finding ways to help with life issues, how to get help for depression, or seeking anxiety counseling…you begin taking the first steps to improve your quality world. The first place that your counselor will often look at will be to ask how your five basic needs are being met. The five basic human needs aid us in the creation of our quality world.
One of those basic needs is Power. Often times people try to be like Atlas from Greek mythology by controlling the world on their back. The world is massive and trying to control something this massive will impact your mental health in a negative way. When you work with an Orlando counselor, you will learn how to focus on the things you can control in the here and now.
Imagine drawing a mental chart and place the things you are in control of on one side and the things that are out of your control on the other side. Focus on the in control side. Focus on your strengths and the qualities that make you individualized and unique from everyone else. Power is a driving force behind the other basic needs. It can determine if you feel free, have fun, or direct how you feel love and belonging from others.
Power is crucial to your mental stability. When it comes to relationships, ask yourself if the relationship you are in is directed by your partner or if you are consistently doing and abiding by your partner's wishes. If this is the case, then this a major sign that you need to have your power basic need fulfilled.
Power in a relationship that is healthy works in a symbiotic way, providing the relationship and each individual, with give and take. Just as you talk, give, and express yourself to your partner, your partner needs to listen, understand, and validate. These needs and feelings that you have should be acknowledged for yourself, just as you do for your partner, to keep the balance of power. If this balance is not present, perhaps reevaluating where the power is in the relationship is a conversation that must be had.
When you lack power in your relationships, that is when you turn towards external validation for immediate fulfillment of this power. You might become less worried about the outcomes of the validation, as long as you are maintaining a certain level of power. The goal would be that you can create this quality basic need healthily within your relationship rather than from external sources that may have damaging consequences.
You are uniquely human, individualized in your own way, and have a right to feel power in your life. Remember, power fuels your remaining four basic needs so without it you are only able to fulfill your needs halfway. Give yourself the time you need. You have the power to control the things within your control. Bring the world down to a point where you need it to be because you are in control, you are powerful!
If this basic need of Power is feeling out of balance for you, seeking Orlando counseling helps. You can speak to a counselor who can help with life issues, and helping you thrive in your quality world, rather than just survive. Be proud of yourself, and if you need help with this, call 407-592-8997 today to speak with an expert who can help you get there.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.