After you welcome children into your home, it's no secret that your relationship with your spouse will be affected. Often times, it can be a struggle to maintain your relationship after a baby. The two of you has now become three, and this can upset the balance that you once had in your relationship. As a specialist in relationship counseling, we recommend spending time with your spouse to rebuild your relationship after welcoming a baby into your home. There are a few tips on how you can work on your marriage after you have children.
Being frustrated or overworked is common when you first bring a baby home. However, you want to be cautious of taking out your frustrations on your spouse. Whenever one of you has done more of the house chores or the baby care that day, you want to be honest about your feelings without anger or resentment. Take some time to have those honest conversations about the new expectations and the changing dynamics. This will help you navigate those new changes in a healthy way and still prioritize one another.
Whenever you introduce a new baby into your home, the conversations will start to center around that new little bundle and their needs. Because of this, you may forget about conversations you need to have with your spouse. Make sure that you are being honest about your own needs and desires when you talk to your spouse. Even though you are taking care of someone new, you still want to be sure to take care of each other.
Taking care of the needs of a baby can be stressful or frustrating at times, as their needs are constantly changing as they develop. You may feel overwhelmed and take this out on your spouse. Before you engage in conversations, make sure that you are staying calm. Taking a few minutes to settle down after the baby cries or taking a walk in the neighborhood to get out of the house can calm you down before you get into an argument. Staying calm will help keep conversations rational and productive.
Caring for a baby is no easy task, and it often requires a village. After a long day of work and caring for the baby, make sure that you take a few minutes to express your gratitude for one another. Showing your appreciation for your spouse and all they do will help remind them that they are important members of the family. This will enrich your connection and keep the relationship positive.
By following these tips, you can take the steps you need to work on your relationship with your spouse after you have children. Children have the ability to make your relationship stronger than ever, but you still need to make sure to prioritize spending time together. Relationship counseling is a great place to work on your marriage anytime you need the extra support or place to heal. Contact us to schedule an appointment today.
Heather Oller is the owner and founder of Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching, and Counseling. She is a licensed counselor and a family mediator who has over 23 years of dedicated work as a professional in the mental health field. Through her company's mission, she continues to pave the way for future therapists, and their clients, who want a higher quality of life....and who want to thrive, rather than just survive. You can contact Orlando Thrive Therapy at (407) 592-8997 for more information.