When you were little, you got up each morning with an imaginary sign on your chest that said I am Lovable and Capable. In the beginning, you replaced the sign every day as you tumbled through life. Over time, however, it got harder to replace the sign. Then, slowly, you found it nearly impossible to tape the sign back on every day. Finally, you stopped because you no longer believed that you were lovable and capable. You started feeling defective, imperfect, flawed, broken, hopeless, inadequate and unattractive. The great news is that when you work with a counselor in Orlando, you have the power to become lovable and capable again.
The first step is to accept responsibility for your feelings. Realize that you are responsible for the way that you feel regardless of the circumstances that life handed you. Even if you were abused as a child, were violated by your spouse or experienced some other bad fate in life, you are still responsible for your feelings. Make no mistake about it, however, doing so may require you to feel pain. It may make you feel more vulnerable than you have felt in many years.
Thankfully, each person is a unique individual. It’s a good thing because the world would be a very boring place if that were not true. What makes you feel loved, however, may not be what makes another person feel loved. Learn what makes you feel great about yourself and embrace those things.
While your sign was being destroyed to the point that you were no longer willing to put it back on, you developed some fears and unrealistic beliefs. They may have even served a purpose at that time to keep you alive and help you face tomorrow. An important part of learning to love yourself is recognizing those fears and unrealistic beliefs and letting them go. You can kind of think of it like a cocoon that you have built around you. Now is the time to break through the cocoon and become a beautiful butterfly.
There are many ways that you can love yourself. For some, it is creating a list of positive attributes and repeating them regularly. For others, it may be journaling positive things about yourself. Others find that giving themselves a reward for accomplishing tasks is important. Part of being a unique individual is realizing that what works for you may not work for anyone else in the world.
If you are willing to work with a counselor in Orlando, like those found at Orlando Thrive Therapy, you will wake up one day and realize that you are loved by the most important person in the world- yourself. Start the process today by calling (407)592-8997 or emailing firstname.lastname@example.org.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.