Removing Toxicity From Your Life
Orlando Counselor Advice
When you read the title of this article, did someone in particular come to mind? As an Orlando counselor, I often help clients identify the health of the relationships they have in their lives. By weighing out the cost and benefits of friendships, relationships, and family, you can determine if some of those interactions are potentially toxic.
Ask yourself these questions:
- Does this person hear me?
- Does this person value me?
- Does this person trigger me, and how do I cope?
- Is this person adding value to my life?
- Does this person inspire me to grow?
- Have I seen any growth in this person?
- Have I tried communicating my concerns to this person?
- Does this person exhaust you emotionally?
- Is your mental health being affected?
- Do you avoid saying what you need or feel to this person?
- Is there equal compromise and effort?
- Do they impede your privacy or independence?
Whether you answered one or all of these questions to the side of toxicity, it’s important to understand and ask yourself why this may be. Talking with an Orlando counselor helps you determine if you find these behaviors excusable in any circumstances. Remember your life is your own and no one else should dictate that of or from you.
How do I resolve or remove this toxicity?
It can be very hard to justify or fix these behaviors. In many cases, this behavior can be enabled throughout their life and in order to change this behavior, the individual would first have to be aware and accept that they need to change. In individual counseling, you can learn that this isn’t your burden to take on. Your only part in this transition is stating how you feel in an effective way.
Removing a person from your life, especially a toxic person, can be very straining. It is very dependent on what kind of person they are. Your safety and peace are a top priority. Whether that means gradually removing yourself little by little, or a complete stop of communication. If this is a romantic relationship, having a support system aware of this transition while you make it is ideal. Even making a plan with a trusted therapist might be an option to explore.
If you or someone you know is struggling with identifying, resolving or removing toxic personal relationships in their life, have them schedule a consultation with a counselor in Orlando today. At Orlando Thrive Therapy, we help clients develop the relationships they want to have. Even transitions after removing a toxic person from your life requires support and feedback. Never feel ashamed for the array of feelings you have toward yourself or the other person. To speak with the author of this article, you can contact Mallory Hawkes, MS, RMHCI directly. Thrive on!
