Relationship Therapy. Does it really work? What are couples saying about relationship therapy in Orlando? Does counseling really help a broken marriage and can it save a failing relationship? Many a couple needing relationship therapy will go into it hoping that the relationship expert will become their referee. This way of thinking couldn’t be furthest from the truth. Experts who are trained in helping to resolve marriage or relationship problems do not act as referees. The truth is, they will require a couple to do a lot of work. They will use specific strategies, interventions, and evidence-based home assignments to give the couple the best chances at improving their situation. Not only does this offer a better chance for success, but it also encourages a couple to avoid making rash decisions about divorce or breaking up.
Married, cohabiting, or dating couples who seek relationship therapy often do so in a state of crisis. There is usually a long period just before entering counseling when they have tried to work on their issues alone. Many couples have also tried to first seek help from their friends, family, or clergy. This can lead them to feel even more conflicted and more confused than ever. This happens because these “helpful” resources are often bias or not objective. They also do not have the knowledge or expertise about how to resolve specific problems that couples face.
Not all marriage or relationship therapists are the same. Many counselors who claim to be capable of treating couples have not actually received any formal training to do so. To start, a relationship expert should always be a state board certified mental health counselor. Following that, you will want to know if they have taken any additional training's specific to relationships or marriage therapy techniques. Examples of training's might include Imago therapy or Gottman Method Couples Certified. Even if you are seeking help from a licensed marriage and family therapist, you will still want to ensure they have additional marriage or relationship training's under their belt.
The truth is that relationship therapy requires hard work. Married couples seeking relationship help often find that they have been engaging in destructive habits for a very long time. When a couple has a false expectation that the relationship will be “saved” after one or two sessions, they might be sadly disappointed. The truth is that marriage counseling and couples therapy requires committing to the therapeutic process, as well as re-committing to one another, to make serious changes. This re-commitment process also means that they are willing to invest the time it might take into undoing, what could be, years of damage.
This is no easy task if one or both partners are not fully engaged, having an affair, or unwilling to compromise or communicate openly. Relationship experts will often use specific relationship therapy techniques, that combine couple’s sessions with individual sessions, so they can gain complete understanding of the problems affecting the marriage or relationship negatively.
It can be very hard to admit that your relationship is failing. It makes sense why couples often try to tackle problems on their own. Even issues that once seemed like small problems might have turned into bigger ones quicker than you could fix them. Hiring a relationship expert to provide relationship therapy is the smartest investment you can make. If you do this before making any other decisions about your marriage or relationship, then you know you have tried everything to make things work.
Call us at Orlando Thrive Therapy today at 407-592-8997. We have licensed mental health counselors who have completed specific training's unique to couples counseling. We look forward to hearing from you and helping you soon.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.