The way in which we speak to ourselves and inner voice determine a lot about our mood, our self-image, our confidence, our mental health. If we can't be nice to ourselves, how can we believe it when others are nice to us? In general, we all have flaws. Take away the Instagram posts, the perfect relationship, the corporate job, and what do we have - just you. How do you feel about yourself? It is normal for us to come up with negative thoughts, it is something most people struggle with, but how do we change it? One way to start is through the practice is daily affirmations. Depending on what your personal struggle is, I have compiled a list of various topics and affirmations to match. Many more can be located across the web! Like mantras, yoga or meditation, this should be an intentional practice during intimate reflection time with oneself.
You know your personal struggles more than any internet article could, so it could help to highlight some of these negative cognitions about yourself or your situation and craft your own personal affirmation in regards to it.
Negative: "I am so behind in school, everyone I know is already graduated".
Positive: "I'm moving according to my personal journey and that takes time".
Negative: "I still financially rely on my parents, therefore I am a failure".
Positive: "My parents are supportive and understand my struggles. I'm becoming more independent every day".
When you search for validation from others regarding your situation, what is it that you want them to say and why can't you tell yourself?
Take a deep breath and affirm yourself out loud, perhaps looking in a mirror to visualize yourself saying the chosen words that speak to your soul. Recite it however many times you need. Start your day this way, or end your day this way. This is a moment of presence, vulnerability, and power.
If you want more personal guidance regarding self-confidence, body image, self-esteem or affirming yourself, speak to a mental health professional at Orlando Thrive Therapy today. The author of this article can be reached at: firstname.lastname@example.org. Thrive on!
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.