Being a good partner in a relationship doesn’t just mean that you have to “be nice.” So much more goes into a healthy relationship than just that. It can be challenging at times to be a good partner when the relationship might be having problems. Research shows that the most successful couples possess similar traits. No relationship is perfect, but there are specific ways you can be a better partner that will add to the relationship in positive ways.
Helpful ways that you can be a better partner in your relationship revolve around selfless acts, kind words, affection, and gratitude.
The everyday routine of life can get the best of anyone. Very often at the end of the day, there is little left to give to anyone else. This is a bad habit to fall into when it comes to your relationship. Successful couples know that being a good partner requires being selfless. Thinking about how you can help, support, and be there for one another every day is very important. Offering to do things for one another. Make an effort to follow through on tasks asked of you and acknowledge times when you fall short.
Putting yourself aside for the sake of your partner is an act of kindness, selflessness, and shows your willingness to go above and beyond. It helps lay foundation for trust, commitment, and the cue you value your partners feelings and needs. It lays foundation in your relationship and supports your partner too.
Finding ways daily to verbally acknowledge your partner in positive ways can have an amazing impact. Romance, connection and intimacy can all be positively influenced with words pf praise, affection, and warm regard. Being a better partner means taking time to speak kindly and to never assume your partner knows how you feel. Saying nice things to your partner goes along with the courting process and shouldn’t be something that becomes a lost art. “You did a great job on the yard this weekend,” or “I love how you look in that dress you’re wearing,” or “You’re going to nail that interview today because you’re you,” are all little ways to express warm thoughts that make a person feel loved, special and cared for.
Affection is very important to feel connected to your partner. Being a good partner means initiating touch sometime even if you don’t want to be touched yourself. Being a good partner means that you extend your hand to hold theirs, ask for a hug, or rub their back if you know they like it. It doesn’t always have to mean sex. Staying physically connected with your partner is very important. Making a point to incorporate daily routines that involve some form of touch is a key element that successful couples engage in regularly.
Taking your partner for granted in not an option if you want to be the best partner you can be. Pay attention to how life is better with your partner in it and express your appreciation often. There are many ways you can look for gratitude, from big to small. Saying things like, “Thank you for making this dinner tonight,” or “I appreciate you picking up the kids today so I could work late,” or even as grand as “I am so thankful you asked me to marry you,” solidifies the amount of value you have for your partner. Being a better partner role models behavior that you want to get back. Your children will also learn how to treat people they value and care about.
Couples therapy in Orlando gives you additional insight into how you can become the best partner you can be. It also provides a safe place for you to deal with reasons why you struggle in that area too. You deserve to have the relationship of your dreams and to feel love. Finding ways to be the best partner you can be gives you accountability in the relationship and that provides a building block to build more on.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.