Counseling in Orlando at the office of Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling, can offer you a chance to let go of the anxiety and fears that you have been struggling with for so long. Fear is a very overpowering and overwhelming feeling. Fear can ultimately drive us if we let it. Fear to get up, fear to face the world, fear to go to class or go to work, fear to smile, fear to even breathe sometimes. We all have fears and most of them are questionable. Are these fears rational? If not, then perhaps what you’re actually feeling is anxiety.
Find your feet and walk, you say to yourself. Find your hands and take the handout from your professor, you force yourself. Laugh out loud at the joke, you convince yourself. With anxiety, sometimes the simplest of things can become the hardest things to do. Sometimes it takes a minute to find your voice, catch your breath, or move your feet.
Anxiety affecting ages 18 and older is the most commonly reported mental illness in the U.S. today. These numbers are equivalent to 18% of the population. (Source: National Institute of Mental Health)
YouTube sensation, Meghan Rienks, recently created a video entitled, “What Having Anxiety Feels Like,” where she opens up to her 2,052,566 subscribers and counting, and depicts a true and meaningful situation and sensation of what it genuinely feels like to experience anxiety.
“From the outside it’s easy to think that somebody’s got it all figured out. Because my hair is curled and my cheeks are intentionally flushed, I must not have a care in the world. As if it were expected for my demons to be worn like a scarlet letter pinned to my chest. And they assume if you cannot see it, then it’s not really there. As if pain does not exist unless you’re bleeding, or slung in a cast, or staggering with a limp. But sometimes the most painful demons are the ones they can’t even see. So we learn how to smile, how to grin and bare it because nobody likes to talk about the tough stuff; hell, I don’t like to talk about the tough stuff.
I have anxiety.
It feels like every cell in my body is moving so fast that my veins are blurry; that despite the constant metronome of my heartbeat, inside my ears it’s like listening to a spastic drum line; it feels like bees in my ears, like a broken white noise machine playing all of the sounds at once. And I don’t even realize I’m grinding my teeth, or cracking my knuckles, or rubbing my fore finger against my pinky, or twisting the gold band on my middle finger. Holding onto myself like I’m the only lifeline bridging the gap between reality on my own two feet, and the autonomically loud abyss of noises and sounds and feelings of fleeting rushing through my veins.
And I’m avoiding eye contact.
Not because I’m not listening to what you’re saying, [but] because I’m listening to the sound of my own voice, hoping that through your ears you can’t hear that it’s two octaves too high, and on the verge of breaking because my palms are sweating and I somehow forgot to speak with anything behind my words other than insecurity.
My anxiety feels like fire.
An unexplainably hot, and rash, and frustrating, as I gnaw the inside of my cheek, as if the solution to this feeling is buried between my teeth and gums.
It feels like drowning. But it feels like burning, and it feels like fucking forever.
I imagine my feet moving with trails of dust behind them, like those cartoons because somehow it feels like I’m moving faster than the 60 seconds they’ve allowed in a minute. All the while I’m just playing catch up on the stopwatch. It doesn’t add up like it did in high school mathematics. I can’t carry the one and find the square root of the problem because most of the time…there is no problem.
There’s no life or death situation. There’s no rhyme or reason.
There is just feelings, and I am feeling all of them at once.
Some days are better than others.
Some days are worse.
But they’re just days, and I’ve got more where they came from.”
Therapy in Orlando for anxiety can be the tool you need to relieve the intense physical feelings anxiety can produce. Anxiety isn’t a joke. Just because anxiety is common doesn’t mean it isn’t worth discussing or treating. Anxiety may be the reason you don’t put yourself out there to create a better support system. Anxiety may be the reason your grades are low, or you aren’t working at your full potential in your career. Anxiety could be the very reason you don’t get out much, or really go for your dreams and goals. It’s very possible that the true you is hiding on the inside, while your anxiety masks your identity and keeps you hiding from what is truly out there for you.
Every now and then I see a quote that goes, “What if the cure for cancer is trapped inside the mind of someone who cannot afford an education?” This could be so, but stop and think for a second, what if the cure for cancer is trapped inside the mind of someone who cannot reach their full potential due to their anxiety? Anxiety can inhibit people in a tremendous amount of ways, causing those affected by it to not feel comfortable going to class, or causing them to stay hidden in their own little world, afraid to peak their head out.
At one point or another during our lifetime we all experience anxiety, but it’s when these fears and anxiety start inhibiting our daily lives. That is when it is time to reach out for a helping hand. Just because anxiety is a common thing doesn’t make it something that doesn’t matter, or should be okay to go through. You don’t have to go through it, and you aren’t the only one realizing this. Just as anxiety is the most common mental illness in the U.S., it is also the most common mental illness clients seek counseling for. You should never be afraid to ask for help and if you are, I urge you to ask yourself, “What if the cure to cancer is hidden in my mind, but due to my anxiety I can not reach it?” or “Am I really reaching my full potential? Or is something holding me back from truly pursuing my goals and dreams?”
Life isn’t perfect, and it comes with a lot of setbacks. All of these setbacks are just part of what can drive a person’s anxiety. But remember, some days are better than others, some days are worse, but it’ll be okay because you’ve got more where they came from. Make today the day you finally say goodbye to anxiety and reach out for help. You never know the possibilities waiting for you on the other side.(This article was contributed by Ashley Campo, UCF Counseling and Psychology Student)
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.