After years of marriage, partners run the risk of becoming more like roommates than romantic lovers. Household duties, caring for kids, work stress, and finances can cause loving feelings to diminish over time if they aren't managed. Unfortunately, sometimes couples don't bother to rekindle those feelings after losing them. The good news is that couples can do many things to help bring back the loving feelings they lost. Changing your thoughts and conduct is the best way to transform how you feel about something. You will feel differently when you change your thinking and do things differently. This is particularly true when you transform how you think about your partner and how you behave toward them. Making a few small changes can make a significant difference in how you feel.
Thinking pessimistic thoughts about your partner leads to negative feelings. For example, remembering that your spouse said something that hurt your feelings or that he forgot to do something you expected can make you resentful and frustrated with your partner. This can cause you to doubt your spouse's love for you, or you may begin to question your whole marriage. However, it doesn't necessarily have to be pessimistic thoughts that lead to adverse feelings. Sometimes, the lack of positive thoughts can also make your connection feel pretty hopeless. For example, if you are concentrating on your career, your children, and other dimensions of your life, you might not spend much time pondering the positive aspects of your union.
Here are some strategies from our experts on in-home marriage therapy in Orlando to help you think differently so you can feel more optimistic about your marriage:
These are some ways to bring some love back to your marriage. Contact us today for in-home marriage therapy in Orlando. We want to help your relationship thrive.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.