Going through a breakup is tough, but it is even tougher if you find yourself looking to date someone to fill the void that your ex-partner left in your life. The questions of when to go back into dating or a relationship become even more relevant and can hold more truth in the answers. After a breakup, in relationship counseling, and working with an individual therapist in Orlando, try asking yourself these questions: Am I trying to fill a void? Are you settling on what you deserve in a relationship? Do you know what you deserve in a relationship or have you ever given yourself time to heal from the relationship that just ended?
The answers to these questions might keep you from hopping right back into a relationship. You may want to first take a look at what you are looking for. These behaviors turn into a fear of being alone, which escalates into codependency. The more you know yourself, the more capable you are of being in a healthy relationship.
It is understandable to want to get back into a relationship after a breakup. It is the drive for love, belonging, compassion, and appreciation that creates this but if you don’t give yourself enough time then the mistakes of your past relationship can remerge and patterns synchronize all over again. This is not what you deserve. You deserve to be in a relationship that works for you, that gives you respect, and also appreciates you. Yes, it may take time for another relationship to build back up but jumping right into the next relationship isn’t a quick fix! It is a way to get hurt again and not have the time to focus on what is really important -YOU! Individual therapy for people going through a breakup is a great way to learn more about your inner fears and insecurities that might continue to impair your relationships.
So yes, go on dates, try meeting new people, explore new avenues and adventures safely and give yourself time to heal and work through the breakup. Even date yourself for the time being! Doing this builds up even more confidence but can also be eye-opening for yourself as well. At Orlando Thrive Therapy working with a relationship therapist will promote self-love and independence through expert therapy skills. Your Orlando counselor is there to assist you in all stages of your life. Remember, you deserve happiness.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.