Every relationship is going to have ups and down, rough patches, dry spells, and slumps. It is about how you overcome these slumps that allows your relationship to grow, thrive, and change over time. When your relationship is going through a tough time, you will need to put in the work. Many even consider marriage counseling in Winter Garden to provide a safe and healing space to work on issues. Some fix the issues by focusing on rebuilding and repairing on their own. These are a few tips to help you work on your marriage during rough patches.
Being with another person means that you need to look at their individual personality, goals, and identity and find what you love. It means that you need to spend time celebrating what makes that person the right person for you. When you neglect to celebrate the differences and enjoy their uniqueness, you may start to lose your own identities. This can eventually cause strains on the relationship, especially if it becomes part of your foundation. Take the time to recognize the unique parts of your spouse so that you can always nurture those qualities of their own personality.
As relationships continue, get more serious, and become a part of your daily routine, they may become stale. They may lose the luster of the honeymoon period, and this can cause you to feel less excitement. If you are feeling bored in your relationship, take the time to remind yourself of why you fell in the love in the first place. Work on getting the spark back by prioritizing intimacy, going on date nights, and communicating openly. Remove some of the distractions of your daily life so that you can focus on what you love about your partner and reignite some passion in your romance.
Conflict in relationships is complicated. It may not be the cause of one person, one instance, or one moment. In fact, it can be the result of a million little things that have compounded over time. Spending time blaming yourself for any conflict or issues that may arise will not get you anywhere, so do not dwell. Instead, focus on what you can do to move forward in a positive and helpful manner. Learn to cope with changes, communicate with your partner, and focus on resolution.
When you are working with another person, it is important to remove any preconceptions or assumptions from your mind. When you assume, it can cause more harm than good. Instead, openly communicate and ask questions to find out the truth about what is going on. Do not assume that you know how your spouse feels. Do not assume that your spouse wants to do something. Do not assume that you know how to fix the issue on your own. These assumptions can cause unnecessary strains that may result in a longer fight than necessary. Talking with your spouse is the best way to avoid any assumptions.
These are just a few ways that you can work on your relationship when you hit a rough patch. If you want help with your relationship, you may want to consider marriage counseling in Winter Garden. Contact us to schedule your session and improve your relationship today.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.