All men can train like athletes in the game of life. Coaches train their athletes to get better. It’s not a weakness to take advice from professionals who are in your court for success! Men are beginning to learn that not only is it okay to talk about their emotions, but it is also extremely helpful and can have a positive impact on all areas of their life. Men are probably the main group in the past that have been the most hesitant to begin using life coaches or counselors. This trend has been changing and men are seeing dramatic results in their lives by using these resources for personal success.
Why have men been so hesitant to try using a life coach or counselor in the past? It could be because, generally speaking, men are taught that talking about problems isn’t a good thing. It could also be that they have highly demanding jobs and have limited time to commit to weekly sessions to work on resolving an issue. It could even be that they are embarrassed about talking to a stranger about a personal topic or they feel ashamed to ask for help. Whatever the case is, men greatly benefit from receiving therapy and the one’s using it are reaping those rewards. Counselors are starting to see a trend in men seeking therapy more often than ever, finding success and empowering themselves in areas they weren’t able to master before.
If a man can view his game as life, and compare it to his favorite sports team, then he can see how getting professional feedback can improve his play. Some experts might argue that men actually have an advantage over women in the counseling department because they are natural “fixers” and problem solvers. They often have a much easier time defining the “problem” which can expedite the counseling process in a lot of cases.
Men experience stress and anxiety from job demands, family pressures, financial issues, and relationship problems just like women do. At work, a man might be feeling the effects of poor job satisfaction, anxiety from changes in the office dynamics, issues with clients or co-workers, or having trouble managing new tasks or assignments. Men who feel they aren’t performing in their career as well as they want to be often experience bouts of depression, or overwhelming frustration and can find themselves feeling more on edge or irritable, snapping at people or avoiding them altogether. Men greatly benefit from having the support of a good counselor who can offer ways to develop new strategies for navigating career stress, job changes or other office issues.
In relationships men want to gain more insight into how to improve the one they are in or how to avoid the demise of a future one. When a man experiences a break-up that might have been beyond his control, he could be caught off guard with uncomfortable emotions he has never experienced before like sadness, anger, hurt, or confusion. These emotions can be difficult to navigate alone and can be softened with the help of a good counselor that is neutral and objective. A counselor can offer insight and feedback in regards to certain behaviors or thought patterns that could have negatively affected the relationship or be inhibiting the success of a current one.
Men usually consider themselves great “problem solvers.” Most of the time they usually are, but when it comes to working on themselves, they might find that they keep falling short. Lacking healthy outlets for stress, using poor communication techniques, and relying on substances to avoid painful feelings are all examples of poor coping techniques men sometimes rely on. When men do not get to the root of the issue or challenge themselves to openly discuss whats going on, they can find that things will only continue to get worse in all areas of their lives. A counselor can help a man avoid this negative trickle over affect and stop the cycle once and for all.
There are situations where counseling is beneficial even without a specific issue to target in on, like anger or addiction. Many times a man may just feel “stuck” or in a state of inertia. This feeling can contribute to low self-esteem, decreased confidence, and self-doubt that may not have been there before. Counselors are trained to look past the state of inertia and challenge their clients to develop new beliefs about themselves, adopt fresh perspectives about their current situations, and to help their clients gain greater skills to achieve their maximum potential for greatness. Therapy will help you get to the root of the matter and identify what might be holding you back, or causing this frustrating state of mind.
The main benefit that men receive from counseling is that they gain a greater sense of themselves and a refreshed confidence in mastering a new challenge. By using a counseling resource that they have a good rapport with, they will see symptoms begin to fade or disappear, making way for a fresh mind set and increased motivation. They will learn that they don’t have to rely on medications with lasting side effects such as erectile dysfunction, weight gain, or insomnia, to relieve their symptoms. Men will learn that through openly discussing thoughts and feelings, they will empower themselves to a higher level they have not experienced before and they will begin to see changes in all aspects of their lives.
For a free 15-20 minute phone consultation call our office at 407-592-8997 today or email firstname.lastname@example.org. Our trained counselors and life coaches will help you decide how therapy can help you, how long you might need to do it to achieve your goals, and what to expect as an outcome.
Heather Oller is a licensed Orlando therapist at Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching & Counseling who specializes in counseling Orlando couples, individuals, and families who are seeking changes in their lives. She has been a mental health professional for over 17 years and is a practicing Orlando counselor that specializes in conflict resolution for couples. You can contact her for an appointment or call 407-592-8997 for more information.